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How to Use Overthinking to Your Advantage

Overthinking is something that introverts and HSPs are really good at. It’s one of our specialties. Give us any situation and we can go crazy overanalyzing it and thinking about it from all possible angles. Telling us to stop thinking so much would be like trying to tell us to stop breathing. It’s just what we do.

Having a tendency to overthink things is great if you’re in a creative writing class and you have to come up with possible scenarios for what might happen to a character in a story. But . . . it’s not always so great when it comes to real life.

Unfortunately, about 99% of the time our overthinking tends to go in a negative direction. We overanalyze all of the “what ifs?” or we read too closely into someone’s tone of voice or expression and worry that they might be upset with us.… Continue Reading

3 Tips to Survive Group Conversations

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Group conversations. Do those two words make you feel tense? Do you feel your stomach getting a little tighter and your pulse rising a bit? If you do, you’re like a lot of introverted people!

While we enjoy getting to know other people and connecting with them, big group conversations aren’t really our thing. A lot depends of course on the size of the group, how well we know the people in the group, and even how much energy we have on a particular day (the more drained we are the harder group conversations will be.) In general, though, many introverts prefer spending time with a couple of close friends or maybe a small group at a dinner party or something like that.

Group conversations are unavoidable, though, and we all end up being part of them at one time or another. These are just a few things that I’ve found have been helpful for making group conversations a little bit easier.… Continue Reading

10 Confusing Contradictions About Introverts

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Whether we want to admit it or not, we introverts can be pretty confusing people. And it isn’t just extroverts that we confuse either. We confuse ourselves just as much as anyone else.

Part of the reason why our introverted personalities can be so confusing is the fact that we’re often misunderstood since we don’t fit the extroverted ideal, but another part of the reason for this confusion is the fact that we are full of contradictions. We contradict ourselves all the time, even when we don’t realize we’re doing it. (I’m starting to confuse myself just trying to write these down! They made so much more sense in my mind . . .)

Everyone is different, of course, and these might not all apply to every introvert out there, but, in general, these are some of the most common contradictions that can make our introverted personalities so confusing at times.… Continue Reading

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